6 Days in Australia

Hi everyone! I know it's been a while, but here I am again. I've been busy with work, but also with a trip back to my beloved Australia. My brother's wedding was on the 17th of November, and I made the trip in order to be there for that occassion. Let me tell you- it was worth it!

After 24 hours of travel from Amsterdam to Melbourne (via Kuala Lumpur) it was great to be picked up at the airport by my brother Jono. Staying with him and his fiance, Tammy, was a great way to relax and actually see them a bit before the wedding. I also got to meet some of Tammy's family. After picking up my Poppa from the airport a couple of days later, it was off the the beach house in Safety Beach to spend some time with my parents. Although Mum was sick, I was still able to spend time playing games and chatting with her and Dad. I was also able to catch up with my other brother and my sister-in-law and my beautiful niece! But quickly the big day arrived!

Safety Beach

The wedding was held in a rose garden at an estate on the Mornington Penninsula. It was a beautiful sunny day and Tammy was looking spectacular. I was honoured to be asked to do the Bible reading- 1 Corinthians 13:4-6. After the ceremony, I was able to spend the rest of the evening catching up with both immediate and extended family members- a few of which I haven't seen in quite some time. There was also a bit of dancing throughout the night! The best part of the night though was that I've 'officially' gained another sister. I love Tammy so much and am so glad that she's a part of our family.

Jono and Tammy

A few days later it was back to Europe after another 24 hours of travel. Arriving back in Den Haag was a bit surreal to start with. Seeing the familiar buildings and remembering how much I love this city was great and surprising, but I am also now missing my family and friends in Australia. My heart is split at the moment- between two countries. It's split between the cold, flat land that I'm currently making my home and the sunny, laid-back land I have lived in for most of my life.

6 days is not a long time to spend in a country, but it was such a blessing that I will soon forget the long travel and the tirdeness from jetlag and will only remember the beautiful ceremony, time spent with family and the tears as I left them yet again.

Thankful?

I believe that in every day life we tend to do a mixture of 3 things:
1. We take for granted our lives and the things that are in them
2. We complain about the things that we wish we had in life
3. We are thankful for the things that we have

I also believe that every day life is usually dominated by the first two reactions. They seem so much easier to do than to be thankful. It's easier to just go about life and not think about what's actually in it. To not think about what we spend our time doing, or who we spend our time with. We don't realise what we've got...until it's not there any more.


It's also so easy to dwell on the things that aren't going right in life. The things that your life is missing or that you've lost. We are trained to look for better things, for upgrades and the things that we 'deserve' in life. But what is it that we really deserve? What do we really have a 'right' to have in our life? Isn't it enough to be thankful for the things that we have in our life right now, and not to dwell on the things we don't have?

I'm at a point in my life right now. I'm stick in a spiral of dwelling on what I'm missing in life- what I don't have. The friends I can't be with, the things that are going on without me, the times I spend alone when all I want is to have someone here with me. But it needs to stop. I'm so thankful for the times that I've had people around me, that I've had friends who love me and care for me. I still have that- it's just changed. I need to be thankful.

As I said, it's easy to dwell on the things that you don't have in your life. What about all the things that we do have? Friends and family that love us no matter where in the world we are. A God who loves us and is with us all the time. The joy of being able to tell people about this God who loves us. A beautiful world created for us to enjoy.

Father, please help me to be thankful

Church is family

Please don't take your church family for granted. I hope you go to a church where you feel at home. You know people there and they know you. I don't mean that they know about you, but that they really KNOW you and they care about and for you. I had a church famliy like this in Adelaide. I loved seeing them every week, spending time with them and worshipping God together. Just like my 'real' family, I took them for granted. I took for granted the fact that they'd be there for me no matter how I was feeling. I took for granted the love that they shared with me when they invited me to their homes; as they prayed for things going on in my life; as we read the Bible together. Mostly I miss the love they conveyed in such simple ways as smiles and hugs.

'Church shopping' isn't fun. It's like going to live with a long-lost sister that you only just found out you had. You know there's a connection between the two of you, but you don't know the first thing about her. You aren't comfortable around her and you don't know what to say. I hope this is making some sort of sense. There's a comfort to family (church or not) that you don't realise is there until it's not there- or you're not there. That said, there's things you can do to grow the relationship, but it's not easy. The best thing to do is persevere. Persevere with going, with talking to people, with getting involved, with taking up invitations etc. That said, I guess it's the same with your church family too. Sometimes you won't feel like seeing them, or going to church at all (for whatever reasons). You just have to. 

The thing I need to remember is that church is about worshipping God. It's not about how I feel, but about having the chance to gather with others to sing praises to our most wonderful creator. It's about reading the Bible together and listening to what God is saying through the songs, Bible, preacher, and other people around us. It's not about us at all- it's about God.

what is a 'good' Christian?

'...we have confidence before God and recieve from him anything that we ask, because we obey his commands and do what pleases him. And this is his command: to believe in the name of his Son, Jesus Christ, and to love one another as he commanded us. Those who obey his commands live in him, and he in them.' 1 John 3:21-24

At the tram stop by the university on Monday, I had a brief conversation with two guys. The conversation started out with the usual- them saying something in Dutch and me replying that I only speak English! This gets the conversation going as they want to know where I'm from and why I'm in the Netherlands. When I explained that I'm here to work with Christian university students, the first thing that was said in reply was 'oh so are you a good Christian girl?' This question is so loaded and got the discussion going about what a 'good' Christian is. Unfortunately my tram came not long into the conversation and they made sure I got on it!

The bible verses that I've added above are just one of the passages that tell us about what the heart of being a 'good' Christian is. The most popular idea of being a 'good' Christian is someone who follows the rules set by the Church and God. In a way this is true, but it's not about following the rules. It's about love. The above passage talks about obeying God's commands and doing what pleases him. This is commonly thought of as the Law or the ten commandments. The passage goes on to tell us which commands please God: to believe in the name of his Son, Jesus Christ, and to love one another. Where's the 'no adultery' and the 'honour your parents'? When we think about the ten commandments and other 'rules' set out in the bible, they can really be placed under these two commands. Let me try to explain.

Believing in the name of Jesus Christ means believing in what the bible has said about him. This means believing in his life, death, resurrection and rule now as king. It means believing he was sent by God (his Father) to take on the punishment we deserve for our rebellion against God. It means believing that we have recieved grace, mercy and love from God through Jesus. That's not a simple thing to do, but is what pleases God. Believing in these things pleases God, because in believing these things it means we are in him and he in us- just as he originally intended!

Loving one another means putting the other person's needs above your own. This relates to many of the ten commandments. Loving your parents means that you'll honour their wishes and ideas. Loving someone who you want to have an adulterous relationship with means loving them (and their spouse) enough to not put them in that situation- putting their needs before your own. Loving one another means that you value them enough to be honest with them and not to lie. I think you get my drift.

There are other commands/laws in the bible, but it is these two that are the things to strive for- the things to practice. It is in obeying these commands that we will live in him and he will live in us. So maybe you're thinking about how this relates back to the conversation I had with the two guys at the tram stop? Would you answer the question of 'what makes a good Christian?' differently now? Is it all about following the rules? or is it about believing in Jesus and loving others?